Everyone who knew Toh Hai Leong; he is now staying in a nursing home for the dementia at Pasir Ris Walk.
Quite glad and relief that he finally has a place who can really take care of his physical needs. For Chew and myself, we can perhaps now focus on our other commitments without feeling something at the back of our neck.
For myself, I hope not to sound too pragmatic, but "charity and help" in a way has a limit and lines have to be drawn. We definitely know for sure we can't be a caregiver permanently... if Hai Leong does not have the will to take care of himself, and his immediate family cannot be there for him, only an institution has the means and resources to do it.
Much as we dislike the idea of him being send to a dementia home and even other nursing home (all the patients we seen are really old), what other better options aside from IMH :(
However we will not forget him, he might be there for a long haul and he needs company. Thus we will visit him, bring him out etc for the emotional support and as friends, we can perhaps only do that much.
So for those who knew Hai Leong, you can now visit him anytime between 10am to 8pm.
Lastly, despite I know it is their "job"; a salute to those nurses and doctors and social workers who are there for him.
a video of Toh Hai Leong's first day in the nursing home
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